Wishing You Well - Coping w/ Grief

Grief has caused me to go through so many emotions over the last few weeks - month. There’s been so much loss that I’ve experienced and that I’ve witnessed with those around me that my heart is just so heavy so often. It brings me to tears thinking about how strong so many of us are having to be as a community, as a nation.

Ordinarily for me whenever I’m going through something I tend to run to my corner and hide. I disconnect from friends, and family, I cancel plans, I just get super overwhelmed. I tell myself that I’m doing everyone a favor because I’m not putting my negative energy on anyone or that it’s better because I’m taking time to reflect. But often times in moments where I have no choice but to pull myself out of my funk, I notice that it serves much greater purpose than I ever imagined possible.

Regardless of how we feel when we’re grieving we need community, we need each other, we need to get those feelings out because pain is so much better out than in. I know that holding in pain and hurt and past grief has played a huge role in my illness! So why on earth do I let it continue to have a hold on me? It’s like I knew the two were related but I never looked deep enough to realize that maybe the isolation is a big part of my problem. We can’t handle everything by ourselves and we shouldn’t have to, nor should we feel that we have to, but because so many people are going through so many other things we feel that we do.

For anyone who has ever felt like the strong friend please know that I am here for you and I want to be in your corner! Please know that if you’re willing to open up to your community and initiate communication with people around you who care for you, you may find that they want to support you, as well. I know that sometimes it’s easier to open up to someone who is completely unbiased, so if you need a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen please know that you can DM or email me at any time and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can! I love you and I don’t want you to feel alone!

I’m going to challenge myself to only allow myself a day to feel my feelings and then after that I have to get out and do something or get something done that I’ve put off. Human interaction is so good and sometimes can remind us that whatever we were stressing about either wasn’t that serious or reminds us that there is a way to reset our thoughts and try to focus on a positive perspective moving forward. One day is all that we get! One day and then you have to DM me! One day and then you have to call your closest friend or family member and setup lunch or a walk outside! One day and then you go to the networking event you’ve been putting off or go in to work instead of just hiding and working from home!

It’s going to feel hard but the harder it feels the harder we have to push! If you need accountability please reach out to me because 9/10 I’m going to need the accountability, as well.  I’m going to appreciate you just as much if not more than you appreciate me showing up and pushing you. I love you! Stay positive! Do the hard things. 💛